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12月26日 Intros and ExtrosHi, my name is Linda and I'm a night owl.
Unlike an alcoholic attending an AA meeting, however, I don't feel the need to control my night haunts, or be reformed in some way. I don't think there's a 10 step program for me, or if I'd even be interested in trying to follow one. I've just been thinking a bit about why I am the way I am. Sometimes I think society in general looks down on we people of the night. It is considered ambitious and healthy to get up early, work hard, eat 3 square meals a day, and then go to bed early. I don't exactly fit the mold.
I sleep a little late, I eat when I want, and I usually start thinking about going to bed about 1 in the morning. I've tried analyzing why I am just not ready to go to bed when "sane" people do. I've got a couple of ideas. You see, I am also an introvert. My introduction should sound like this;
Hi, my name is Linda and I'm a night owl, and an introvert.
I think society, in general, also looks down on introverts. You hear many positive comments about extroverts. "He's so friendly", "She's the life of the party", "He is so much fun to be around." People love extroverts.
I heard somewhere the difference between introverts and extroverts. Extroverts gain their energy and "life" from other people. If they are alone too long they feel drained and seek out the company of others to get recharged. Introverts are exactly the opposite. Although they enjoy the company of people and are not unfriendly, just being with a crowd drains them and they seek solitude to recharge. Extros love crowds, Intros love one-on-ones. Extros love to talk, Intros love to listen. It takes both to make a balanced world.
My mother is an intro, my father is an extro. My mother is perfectly happy at home. She's got a lot of projects she works on. She has no problem entertaining herself. My dad's retirement was a little bit hard on her because her alone recharging time was cut short. My dad can't stand being home for very long before he starts fidgeting and pacing. "Let's go visit someone". My mother, ever the trooper, will gladly go. No one is a stranger to him. He will engage anyone in front or behind him in line in conversation. He could talk to someone who called a wrong number for 10 minutes without breaking a sweat. If you are sharing a plane trip or bus ride with him be prepared to tell all about where you were born, where do you live, how many children do you have, and what is your favorite pie. When we tease my dad about his overt friendliness he just shrugs his shoulders and sheepishly says, "well, how else are you going to get acquainted?" My husband is cut from the same piece of cloth. He can always find an area of common interest with anyone he talks to. There are no strangers. Just friends you haven't met yet.
I don't mind being an intro. I don't feel like I need to aplogize for it. I'm glad to have visitors and go visiting. I love it when my family is here. Christmas was fun. We played games and talked and laughed. But when they left I felt drained. I needed to recharge. It was late. I couldn't just go to bed. I would wake up more tired. I needed some alone time to do those things that give me joy, infuse my chakras, and rejouvenate. Maybe if my family were all night owls I would have to get up early for those peaceful moments. Maybe, but I doubt it. I don't think you can really change an owl into a lark any more than you could change steak into ice cream. I think I truly am, and always will be a night owl. 评论 (4)
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